Below are some important tips that may help you in finding back the LOVE that once swept you of your feet.

# 1. Accept the reality of love and relationships

Love is a commitment. Both of you should decide and commit to love one another despite what happens and whatever difficulties life should bring. If you are truly committed, there is no turning back and no giving up. You are not bound by the feeling you may be experiencing now, you are bound by your commitment of loving each other throughout your lifetime.

# 2. Rediscover your true feelings

 Perhaps you can still remember how you first felt for your special someone. Go back to those first few dates, those first few nights out, and those first fun times together. Can you recall these times and these feelings? Everything about your partner was great! Right?

Think back to those times, and rediscover what made you like your partner in the first place, and what sets your special someone apart from all the other love interests around. What did you love most about your partner?

The answers to these questions will lead you back to the reasons why your partner became a special someone in your life. Don’t just think about these reasons; try to let your heart go over these as well. With these, you will then be able to look at your partner in a new light, and see her in pretty much the same way when your heart was still pounding like crazy with the other’s mere presence alone.

# 3. Time together and time apart

It is important that you spend quality time with your partner. You might have taken your special someone for granted over time. Your work might have taken most your time, leaving you with less to spend with your partner.

Giving due time for both of you to go out, have dinner and have fun will do good to your relationship. Both of you might have just missed out doing the fun part in your relationship.

As important as having a good time together, you and your partner should also learn to spend time alone, with your set of friends and your family. Having other forms of social contact, even when you are in a relationship, will also take out the monotony & routine of having just the both of you together.

Having the time together and the time apart will give you the balance needed in your social life. Being a social person, you not only belong in a relationship with your partner in love, but you also belong in a relationship with your group of friends.

# 4. Have realistic expectations of your partner

Both of you are persons with different backgrounds. Each of you was brought up uniquely in different family settings. It is expected that sooner or later both of you will eventually collide on issues that one handles quite differently than the other.

And also remember, that each person is complex. One continually grows and will at different points in life change traits, views, perspectives and demeanors. This should be one fact that you must keep in mind. Accepting this, you will be able to understand your partner more, and you will be more lenient in your dealings with one another.

Human as we are, one will commit mistakes and will perhaps, at one point in time, hurt the other for the actions, or inactions of one. Your harsh words toward your partner due to minor mistake or error will be hurtful. Your inaction to show your care, and to make the other feel special will upset your partner.

Forgiveness is the answer. Each should learn to forgive the other of the mistakes made. Pride should be put to a minimum, and if possible eliminated out of the relationship. Many relationships crumbled with pride hammering its way through, imposing itself on top of the relationship.

# 5. Surprise your partner

Every once in a while, it is also nice to give your special someone a gift that you know your partner would love. Give special cards even on ordinary days and pen in your love messages, and poems if you can.

Never ever miss the chance to surprise your partner. Your better half will be happy with the re-affirmation of your love. It will be greatly appreciated, and you may very well have to prepare yourself for a surprise coming your way too! If your partner loved the gesture so much, most likely your partner will repay in kind, and who knows, even more than you expect.

# 6. Engage in a common hobby

Having a common hobby would give both of you a chance to do together the things you love, and at the same time provide for an opportunity for conversation.

It will be a fun time where both of you can just enjoy what you are doing, and sharing things and ideas about your favorite hobby. This will be one way of putting in more enjoyable activities in your daily lives.

# 7. Play a common sport

Engaging in sports is a good way to exercise and feel good. Both of you will become fit and healthy, and will have twice the fun doing it together.

Scheduling sports activities will provide an alternative to your usual weekend routines, and will be also a good way to meet with each partners’ set of friends who share the same love for the sport.

# 8. Talk, talk and talk

Communication is key. Both of you should always find time to talk – whatever topics may come up. The subjects of your conversation are not that important, as the process of being able to talk about anything.

Being able to talk about anything is important in a relationship. It shows that each is concerned about what each has to say, and values the other’s opinions of whatever topics they may be.

Be open of your feelings as well. Letting the other know what one is feeling will make the other side understand you better. It should be a two-way communication so that each will benefit from the talk.

# 9. Travel

Going to other places would not only refresh your minds from the months of work and pressures in the office, but it will also give your relationship a refreshing experience.

Being in another place which is completely beautiful, as an exotic island, and together experiencing the beauty of the place for the very first time, would mark that moment as a special one in both of your memories.

Having such happy memories together will be something you can talk about in years to come. Drawing upon such happy memories would bring both of you back to happy times, and will make your relationship stronger.

# 10. Pray and Let God be the center of your relationship 

Pray! Make God the center of your relationship. Abide by what the bible teaches about love and relationships.

Having a good relationship with God makes you spiritually stronger. And any temptation that may come your way, you will have more strength to be firm on your principles and say no. Being faithful to your partner will give you a clean heart and a clean mind. With all the clutters taken out, and concentrating only on your special someone – you are most likely to get a happy and peaceful relationship.